DIFFERENT TYPES OF LOVE

DIFFERENT TYPES OF LOVE

 

We often mistake love as generally just being romantic and never really appreciating the other kinds of love that do exist.

SECURITY LOVE:
This love is the love that everybody needs to survive. It is that feeling of being cared for and nurtured. Some people would describe this as the type of love parents have for their children. This is so important: high on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs; and studies have even proven that people have died of a "broken heart" (there have been no explanations for their deaths other than that).


FRIENDSHIP LOVE:
This is a love between yourself and someone that is totally honest, open and comfortable. You really only have this kind of bond with a few people. You might know a lot of people and be "friendly" with them in a group situation but they are not the best friends I am talking about here.
I have a theory that you can not truely be best friends with a member of the opposite sex. Down the line romance will always come up from either party and feelings will be misinterpreted and mistaken. When this happens, the friendship will change and possibly never be the same again.


ROMANTIC LOVE:
(The much anticipated love!) Most people experience this type of love many times in their life. It is when you see that person for the first time and he/she makes your knees go weak or gives you butterflies in your stomach.i.e. "Love at first sight”. Most people don’t even love the person they think they are in love with…they fall in love with the idea if being in love. This is more of a lustful kind of love, it wears off after a while and hopefully leads to…


UNCONDITIONAL LOVE:
This is the sincere love, the love that lasts forever. This kind of love comes when you have found the person you are destined to be with. Nothing can destroy unconditional love. It is like when you have an argument or disagree about something with that person and you realize that it doesn’t bother you because the love you have for him/her overcomes everything.

In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take .............

The full quote is: “In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have and the decisions we waited too long to make. There comes a time in your life when you realize who matters, who doesn’t, who never did and who always will. So don’t worry about the people in your past, there’s a reason they didn’t make it to your future.”


We all have a handful of regrets in our lives that we can never change. It could be anything from fighting to make a broken relationship work to walking out on someone. We make these choices every day and sometimes, I feel that we all make rash decisions without thinking a little bit more on whether we’re going to regret this in the long haul.


One of my biggest regrets when it comes down to just past relationships is not taking any risks. Now that I’m older, I no longer have the privilege to screw up or take as many chances compared to when I was younger. I was always careful, like stepping on eggshells, when it came to dating. I don’t know why. It may have been because I had too many friends that would blow up something great or ruin what they had by getting their girlfriends pregnant. I don’t know, but these kind of influences kind of stick to you as you venture on your own relationships. Too many times I said no to something that could have been great. Too many times I played it low to be safe and not get hurt. But when I look back at it all, I understand why I’m now willing to take risks and why I dated the people that I did.


But the more I think about it as I’m writing this, I’m sure if I kept looking, I could have found someone that could just have been mature and more close to my age that was still fun to be with and yet not have so much drama.


Now, as ripe as I can be in my late 50's, I am not only looking for someone I can look up to but someone I can also hang loose and have fun with. I want the fruits of both worlds. And why shouldn’t I? It’s not like I can only have one over the other. To think that only having a mature companion will solve all your worldly problems is just as unwise as thinking that only having a fun partner will give you nothing but laughs for the rest of your life. Just at looking at myself, I can be such a party-pooper and prefer sitting alone at home reading on a Friday night but I can also watch a few movies and have my brain turned to mush but at least I’m having fun.


So I’m writing this in hopes that I’ll be able to fix my habits of not taking any chances and sometimes going for it just for the heck of it. I’ll try and be more loose and not so reserved but also know how to pick them not because they “seem like someone I can be with” but “someone I want to be with.” And those people that I didn’t take chances with, are definitely the people I think most about.