Lessons Learned - 16 categories of women

Lessons learned ................

 

Before you embark into a relationship with someone make sure you thoroughly understand his/her past.  Hold up. Slow down. Before you put all your eggs (biological or otherwise) in this human being’s basket… before you throw precious time, energy and money into someone other than yourself… before you take your gorgeous, wonderful soul off the market… make extra-sure it’s not just your sex drive talking.

 

He/she may seem to look like the perfect person you’ve been longing for.  He/she may seem very friendly, soft-spoken, courteous and all those good stuff but that may not be true.  Beneath those “false” good attributes, he/she could just be harboring some real dark secrets which you will only discover “much to your regret” later into your relationship with that person.

 

Important things you need to know first ......

 

Was the person married before? 

 

What was the real cause for divorce? 

 

Did the person initiate the divorce or was it initiated by his/her spouse? 

 

What was the reason for divorce?  Was it infidelity or irreconcilable differences? Was the infidelity from the person’s side or from the spouse’s side?  How did it affect the family and most importantly how did it affect the children?

 

There is no question, getting cheated on sucks. But is the old adage ‘once a cheater always a cheater’ really true?  This all depends on the type of person you’re with and who cheated on whom.

 

 Here are some common signs to watch out for:

 

• suddenly he/she's working late a lot
• he/she is coming home late everyday. Sometimes even past midnight.
• he/she's suddenly taking trips you can't go on
• he/she's got new hobbies that don't include you
• mysterious phone calls with hang-ups
• he/she receives phone calls at all hours of the night
• he/she takes calls and walks out of the room to talk on the phone
• he/she neglects the children and spends more time out
• less sex
• he/she's more distant, angry or picky

 

 Apart from the general factors that bring about cheating, some other factors that  influence cheating may have a genetic component – a spouse’s level of attractiveness, lack of self esteem, risk taking nature, sexual addiction, insecure, depressed with life, have fallen in lust with someone else, are avoiding some other hardship in their life and so on  – can be more difficult to change. 

  

And some people are simply narcissists who will most likely cheat for the rest of their lives.  These genetic factors may help explain why some people have a more difficult time being faithful.  Typically, the best indicator of a partner’s future behavior is his or her past behavior.

  

When you come across a person who destroyed his/her marriage with lies, deceit and cheating, with no conscience and believing that what he/she’s done is right.  By embarking on the path of cheating, this person not only put his/her spouse through misery and pain but also made his/her children to suffer the ordeal.  My advice would be to get as far away as possible from this person.  A person of this calibre should never be trusted at all.

  

In answering the question about “Once a cheater always a cheater”  .......

  

The answer is yes.  It illustrates the person's character. These people understand the importance that society places on trust, particularly in relationships. They have proven they are self-centered in life.

  

"A person's true character is what they do when they think nobody is looking"

 

"A dishonest person is seldom dishonest in only one area of their life."

 

"The best predictor of future behavior, is past behavior."

 

My answer to the question is: From everything I have personally experienced as well as witnessed in my own circumstance, yes. Personally, nobody will have the opportunity to prove that directly with me.

   

Definition of Insanity:

"Continuing to do the same thing you have done before, and expecting a different outcome."

  

With female infidelity now at an all time high, more and more men who are married, or in committed relationships are asking themselves this question about their spouse of significant other:

  

With infidelity constantly in the news, it’s not uncommon for a man to wonder if his wife or girlfriend will cheat on him in the future, and one day break his heart.

  

Listed below are brief descriptions of 16 kinds of women who are especially susceptible to having an affair.

  

1. She has lots of close male friends - A significant number of affairs begin as close friendships with members of the opposite sex. The relationship may be platonic at the beginning, but chances are, it won’t stay that way. The closer the woman is to her platonic male friend, the more likely it is that he will eventually end up becoming her lover – unless he’s gay.

  

2. She has girlfriends who are cheating on their mates. - Never underestimate the power of peer pressure. Adults are susceptible to it, too. If a woman has one or more close female friends who are cheating on their husbands or boyfriends, she may eventually start cheating, too.

  

3. She has an excessive need for attention. – A woman who constantly craves attention may cheat on her mate if she feels she’s not getting enough attention from him. She will be easy prey for any man who showers with her the attention she feels she deserves.

  

4. She’s materialistic. - A materialistic woman is likely to have an affair with a wealthy man because of the material things he can provide. She can easily be seduced with jewelry, designer clothes, lavish vacations, or the cash to buy these and other expensive things.

  

5. She views sex as a statement of her femininity. - Her identity as a woman is tied to how many men she sleeps with. Seducing men to sleep with her is the focal point of her life. With this mental attitude, it’s hard for her to stay faithful to just one man.

  

6. She’s a thrill seeker or a risk taker. - If she’s the type who likes to live dangerously, she’ll cheat just for the thrill of it, or for the excitement of doing something forbidden, or for the challenge of seeing if she can pull it off without getting caught. She views infidelity as other people would view a high-risk sport.

  

7. She’s easily bored. – A woman who is easily bored, or who leads a dull, routine life may cheat on her mate just to alleviate her boredom or add some excitement to her life.

  

8. She has been cheated on by her mate. – If a woman’s husband or boyfriend has cheated on her, she may try to even the score by cheating on him in return. Many women who have been victims of infidelity will indulge in retaliatory cheating or have revenge affairs.

  

9. She likes being the center of attention. – If a woman thrives on being the center of attention at all times, she is sexually vulnerable to any man who fawns over her, or makes her feel like she’s #1

  

10. She’s addicted to alcohol or drugs. – Women who are substance abusers are much more likely to end up cheating on their mates. Female alcoholics are susceptible to infidelity because their inhibitions will be lowered and their judgment impaired. Female drug addicts may sell their bodies for drugs. Either type of woman is likely to cheat without realizing what she’s doing.

  

11. She has a reputation as a “party girl.” - If she’s the type of woman who runs with a fast crowd, or parties all the time, or hangs out until the wee hours of the night, her lifestyle makes her vulnerable to having an affair.

  

12. She’s a sex addict. - Women can be sex addicts, too. It’s an addiction that affects at least 6% of the American population. In the past these women were referred to as nymphomaniacs. This is a medical condition that requires professional medical help.

  

13. She’s had lots of sexual experience. - If she has led a very active sex life, or has had lots of sex partners before settling down, she will find it extremely difficult to stay faithful to just one man.

 

 14. She cheated before and got away with it. - That old saying “ Once a cheater, always a cheater will apply if she cheated in the past and didn’t suffer any negative consequences as a result of her infidelity. If she cheated before and didn’t get caught, she’s more likely to cheat again. The same applies if she cheated and her man readily forgave her without holding her accountable for her infidelity.

  

15. She has a big ego. - If she’s extremely egotistic, any man who feeds her inflated ego can easily get her into bed.

  

16. She suffers from low self esteem. - The opposite characteristic is also a danger sign. If she suffers from low-self esteem, she will be easy prey for the man who flatters her, makes her feel good about herself, and boosts her self esteem.

  

If you’re married to, or in a committed relationship with a woman who falls into one or more of the 16 categories above, make sure you know how to recognize the early warning signs of infidelity.

 

If you don’t know the early warning signs of impending infidelity, or the signs of an affair in progress, you may be in for a lot of hurt, humiliation and heartbreak ahead.

 

Your future, and the future of your marriage or relationship may well depend on your ability to spot the signs in time. But knowing what to look for is the key.